"Love does not know any boundaries but it does have some borders."

tell that to the next weirdo who professes the undying to you.

some words of wisdom from those who have come and left before me.
i applaud your candor and audacity, sir jason.

"I feel it is best to quickly express my fondest appreciation for some of the endearing ideas that I have seen peddled around me: like how everyone seems to be replaceable, thinking outside of the box is liken to heresy, favoritism is thicker than water and speaking the truth gets you into trouble.”

-Jason

congratulations!

and edit:
*applauds your courage*

thank you to lj user "bytheguillotine" (for some reason it won't let me link right now)

A Letter to a Christian friend “Jane” by a lesbian

Jane,
I find it really interesting that of all the questions you asked my wife about her life with me, you never once asked her questions such as the following:

Does Ruth love you well?
Does Ruth honour you and support your integrity and self-development?
Is Ruth the sort of person who would tell you the hard truths about yourself?
Is Ruth honest with herself?
Is Ruth an honourable person?
Are the both of you a good team?

To put it a little bit more pointedly, you never once asked Naomi whether I lived with her and loved her in the way Jesus commanded us to live and love each other. You never asked her whether our love for each other reflected 1st Corinthians which I think is the definitive statement of what it means to love.

( cut for lenghth, but read because it's beautiful. )
With love,
From a follower of Christ who has chosen not to be a Christian,
Ruth.

1) banning gay marriage does not make gay people disappear.

2) gay people are not demanding you welcome them into your churches and tell us god loves us and stuff. all we want is the same legal protection offered to "straight" couples.

3) a gay married couple up the street that you never meet is not going to rock your world in any way. unless you let it.

4) you cannot catch gay.

5) think gay sex is wrong? gross? nasty? DON'T DO IT. but, womens, i'm sure you've had somebody go down on you at some point. if you haven't, try it. it feels good. guys, i'm sure you've received the same. and there are a lot of "straight" people who engage in anal activities. so get over it.

6) AIDS is not a "gay disease." it affects anybody, gay or straight, who has unprotected sex with the wrong person. which means that sex ed applies to everyone.

7) gay people pay taxes also. we contribute to the big pot. so if we're contributing, why should we not be allowed the same rights as you?

8) everybody is entitled to their opinions and beliefs, but despite the fact that i'm agnostic, does not mean that i'm allowed to switch around laws and say that "straight" people cannot get married.

9) what happened to treat others as you'd like to be treated? if you're straight, you find somebody you love, you get married. the person you are married to is allowed certain benefits and health coverage, as well as others, because you're married. this is why the argument of "well a gay man can just marry a gay woman" or "a gay man can marry a straight woman" and them just do their own thing doesn't really work. you would want that coverage and protection for the person you love.

10) your little book, whatever little book you believe in, does not apply to everybody else. i know your little book tells you to go recruit people and that homosexuality is wrong and a sin, but i can whip up a little book that argues that. and if i distribute it to enough people, then there we go. new religion. that says there's no big deal about it. we live in 2009. there are many religions. allowing a significantly out-of-date book to dictate your beliefs and your behavior and actions towards people is actually...really sad.

11) you can be a completely moral and kind person without a little book, but that's another topic. the point is that everybody "sins," everybody "falls short," and just because you say that you try harder and believe MOAR does not make you better than somebody else.

12) again, the states that have allowed gay marriage have not toppled. nothing's falling apart. those people are living the same lives they were before just now they have access to the same things you "straight" married people do. which is only fair, considering that we still pay and contribute to the same things you do.

13) what's so threatening about gay people being married? this "sanctity" of marriage thing is ridiculous. somewhere around half of all marriages end in divorce. people cheat. how is there a "sanctity" about these relationships that needs to be protected?

14) that said, allowing gay people to be married isn't going to protect us from the same heartaches and struggles that straight people go through. it's just that now we're allowed to use the same word as you.

i'm fully accepting of straight people. just because they're straight doesn't warrant any exclusion from anything. why should it? we all experience the same things in life. love, pain, happiness, sadness, loss. we all have hopes and dreams. some of us treat people better, some of us treat people worse. we all make mistakes. what's the big deal? i have my beliefs, but i don't feel the need to voice them so loudly and move to prevent you access to one thing or another. why should what you believe dictate my access to the same rights you have?

if anybody has anything to add, go for it.

to those who support prop 8...

during the period that gay marriage was legal in california, however brief it was,
the world did not collapse, your children did not become gay overnight, people didn't come crashing into your living room cross-dressing, and nothing exploded due to it.

this isn't new. it's not like if gay marriage is allowed this time around, the world will explode into teensy tiny pieces. take the other 2 states that do currently allow gay marriage. last i checked, they were still on the map and their infrastructers hadn't given way to rainbows or anything. so what's the big damn deal?

if anything, there'd finally be rest. everybody could put aways their signs and frustration.

the people who are sick of the protesting need to get over it. we're protesting for a good damn reason. if some yes on 8er somewhere was suddenly denied the right to marry their partner of choice, they'd be up in arms about it, too.
you should all be concerned about the state of ignorance that got us here...again. it was so easy to lie to a mass of people who weren't thoroughly educated, who think that their way is the only way, and have something as basic as the right to marry pulled back from a select group of people.

if it's that easy to do to us, what could a group of ignorant idiots do to you?

what happened to separation of church and state? oh yeah! it never really happened. it was just a damn lie so that we would appear to be a tolerant, diverse nation.
GTFO THE BIBLE. WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE A CHRISTIAN NATION.

no, we can't allow anybody of the same sex to get married! why the hell not?
no, it's not going to be taught in school. it IS just a scare tactic. marital traditions vary from religion to religion, background to background...which...IS SUPPOSED TO BE SEPARATE FROM CHURCH AND STATE. who cares wtf the bible says? the bible is not our constitution.

homosexuality exists. it's out there. i'm not saying you have to shove it in your kids face. but don't hide it from them. it's not going to go away. how shocked are they going to be when they get older and come to understand it? oh, great! more idiotic biased assholes thanks to what mom and dad shielded them from.

additionally. this: http://www.christiannewswire.com/news/873908223.html
how many of us went on field trips as children? um, most of us. YOUR PARENTS HAVE TO SIGN A PERMISSION SLIP. nobody makes you go to field trips. it's allowed if your parent consents. so those kids that went to that wedding? their PARENTS said it was okay. so stfu. nobody is going to drag your kids to a f*cking wedding. nobody is FORCING it on you. it's the other way around. why can't you SEE that?

does it personally affect your life? no. if a gay/lesbian couple somewhere in california get married, how is that going to affect you? what did it change in your life? all it did was grant them the same title that you have, "married." why is that so wrong?

half of you so-called "christians" don't even follow the doctrines of your religion, anyway. so why do you feel the need to impose rules that you don't even follow on other people? who according to the entire foundation of this country, have the right to choose to follow another religion, different from your own?